When the topic of society and their portrayals of father hood come up Lenzy does not take society seriously.
“It seems as though much of what goes on is founded in consumerism and inaccurate portrayals of people that evoke biased or prejudiced sentiments. I can maybe think of two commercials of if black fathers being shown as such, despite our commander in chief being the most renown display of black fatherhood. “
Challenges have also presented themselves because of the non traditional house hold that they have. Lenzy juggles his responsibilities by “continuing develop a sense of autonomy through work and personal life.”
“ I'm always thinking long term while trying to be effective in the short term through accomplishing goals.”
Lenzy believed the myth that fatherhood made men more serious and more responsible. He sees that sometimes this is the case but some fathers just continue on living their lives the same way they were before they were responsible for another’s life.
I was curious about the distinctions between masculinity and fatherhood. Clearly I don’t understand the mentality of men. Yet I sometimes see the changes a man goes through when they have children specifically daughters. We joke and say she will make you soft. I would argue soft is not the correct term. She is simply bringing out a side or bringing out more of a side that is already rooted in the man. The gentle side of a man that people try to suppress.
Lenzy shares that Fatherhood has taught him that masculinity is just a word.
“Raising my daughter has made me take things more serious and really examine the way I live and the life I want for her.”
“It's taught me that, masculinity can be used as an ideology people use to create that separation. And what's interesting is that, “I know for a fact, every father that I know with a daughter, relishes the opportunity to have a tea party with their baby or almost becomes emotional at the idea of a bee stinging her!”
In light of parents embracing different things about themselves when it comes to parenting I think we sometimes dismiss children because they are children. They actually are able to teach us the adults.
Lenzy admires his daughter's charisma. “She really wins people over fast. She's also very sharp and quick-witted. Very tactful at times!! It's weird!! She gives ME propositions at times, and after listening, I'm like "wait a minute" realizing she's in the process of "working" me!! I love that little girl so much!!!”
Parenting I believe is a mystery. Humans are complex creations and raising them brings a million challenges and opportunities of its own.
“Fatherhood has vastly improved my spirituality. Just the fact that, she's in school and involved in camps and extra curricular activities and I can't control what she's exposed to. I really have to rely on values that myself and her mom have instilled in her with the hopes that she make wise decisions. It's a relief that, I know God is watching her and that she is learning about God so her conscience is very active within her decision making. Of course she'll "bump her head" if you will, but my goal is for her to have the fortitude to get back up, dust herself off, and keep going.”
Lenzy does what needs to be done to make sure that Lauryn’s needs are met !!